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Sam loves what he does but always complains that he's overwhelmed with too much work. His employers believe he deserves a raise but needs to find balance at work.
Sydney is an amazing leader but hardly asks for help or delegates the tasks at hand. Often times this attitude is mistakenly seen by others as being a micro manager.
Jake has been with the same company for a decade now. His not-so-well communication skills prevent him from the well deserved new role in the company as a team leader.
Have you ever pondered on how " the way we talk" affects " the way we work"?
Have you noticed how our company culture and our relationships are affected directly by the way we communicate our inner and outer world?
Are you ready to step up in your organization and stressed about new ways you would have to connect?
You are not alone, simply because:
• If you are leading, inevitably, you are constantly dealing with and creating change.
• Every significant or even small change you intend to create in a group of humans can not be possible without change in individual behavior.
• Even if the change happens, making it sustainable without attending to the way people make meaning of things, is improbable.
• Without considering that we ourselves must change, it is impossible to lead a group, expecting them to grow, be resilient, and change the way they make meaning.
One may ask: Why so much emphasis on change?
Why should I be changing my language?
Why building resilience?
Why do I bother?
Kinda simple answer;
As leaders, we are constantly being challenged to change whether we like it or not, whether we admit it or not! How much did you have to change your ways during the recession? How about during the past two years with the shortage of subs and technical staff( in construction market)? With the way procurement and business have evolved? With the political ups & downs?
At the same token, as leaders, we always have to support others in their growth and change. Can you point out a flourishing company that hasn't had to deal with diversity issues? New hires & fires? Promotions? Complaints? Team building efforts? Don't all of these events have something in common? CHANGE!
Every time this change is forced upon us, we have to re-evaluate the way we make meaning.
In every instance that we have to find new ways of making meaning we have to find new ways of communicating. New ways of using our words and our language. Because we make meaning through LANGUAGE!
The way we talk reveals, defines and can re-construct:
Perhaps if Sam looks deeper into his complaint pattern he would find the real commitment, the passion that leads him to take up too much work. With a change in the language Sam can benefit from this complaint instead of feeling burdened by it.
How about if Sydney manages to share her need for help. Wouldn't she be more capable of building better relationships as a leader and lightening up her workload?
What if Jake looks deeper into the hidden messages his way of communication is giving to the team and reconstructs his way of talking to simply lead a better team? Wouldn't that well deserved raise manifest?
After all it’s all about the language! What do you think?