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In this holiday season, are you a TAKER or RECEIVER?
No fluff. No long introduction!
It all came about during my holiday gift delivery. You see, for the past 17 years, every December I have been delivering, yes, hand delivering, anywhere between 30-500 gifts to my clients all over the State of Georgia. Plus, few that I mail. It’s my favorite part of the job. I truly take unmeasurable joy in “ giving”, without talking business. There’s never any expectation or demand in return. It’s just the spirit of giving that lights up the season for me. And I would say, more often than not, I am received with pleasure, joy and gratitude.
Most often, I said!
Why not always, you may ask!
Well, perhaps because there is an art to “receiving" as much as there is to “giving”.
Giving with open heart.
Giving without expectation.
Receiving with gratitude.
Gratitude for the thought, for the time, for the endeavor.
What do you think?
During one of my deliveries this year, the gentleman I delivered to, was not in his office. I left the tower of Godiva chocolate on his desk with a note. By the time I was getting ready to leave the building, he was back at his desk. So I appear at his office door just to say seasons greetings. He had obviously discovered the gift since it was no longer sitting on his desk.
Without looking up, he shouts out,” HI, BYE”. Dismissing me without hesitation. Leaving no room for me to say anything. Not even acknowledging that I had driven over 50 miles to bring the holiday cheer to the office. I was taken aback.
After the initial heat of judgement, vexation and disappointment, that fired up my ego, I caught myself. Came back to my center and considered possibilities. Maybe he was really overwhelmed. Perhaps he was having a very bad day. After all, it’s giving without expectation, right? Calmly, I walked out. Drove back in holiday traffic. Lost in my thoughts; what has happened to grace & gratitude? How much are we taking life for granted? How much are we lost in the Busi-ness? How much do our roles define us? Who would I be without the ideatity described on my business card?
Yes. Like they say; this too shall pass. And what did I learn? What was the lesson? What can I or should I do differently? As a coach, this spirit of self observation and learning never leaves me ( I hope).
For me, the lesson was, receive as gracefully as you give. There’s a big difference between “a receiver” and “a taker”. No matter how small or big is the gift. Whether it’s a smile from a stranger, a warm welcome from the waiter serving you or a key to a brand new car; how we receive defines how connected we are to our source. To the Universe. To humanity. How we receive builds or breaks relationships. It sets the path for future. There is always a choice.
Pause: What’s your way of receiving?
Happy Yalda Night ( Winter Solstice)